The Fight Is Not Yours

Greetings, seekers of truth and inner peace.

Today, we address the storms that arise in our relationships—the heated arguments and the painful conflicts with those we love.

When anger flares and words become weapons, we often believe that we are the ones fighting. We think, "I am angry," or "I must win this battle."

But I am here to share a profound truth that will set you free from this suffering:

You are not the one fighting.

My teacher, Yogi Dom, taught me the ultimate secret to clarity: "You are not your mind."

When you are in the middle of a quarrel, observe closely what is happening.

It is the "Monkey Mind"—restless, reactive, and fearful—that is screaming, blaming, and defending.

This mind is like a mechanical program, replaying old movies of hurt and fear.

It is this Monkey Mind that fights.

But you are not that Monkey.

You are the Awareness.

You are the silent, peaceful observer who watches the mind. Just as the sky allows clouds to pass but is never damaged by the storm, your true self—your Awareness—is vast, still, and untouched by conflict.

The Truth That Ends All Conflict

The moment you realize, "I am the Awareness observing this anger," the fight ends. Why?

Because Awareness does not fight. Awareness only sees.

A fight requires two egos, two Monkey Minds, clashing against each other.

But if you step back and remain as Awareness, you step out of the ring.

You are no longer the monkey screeching in the forest; you are the forest itself, holding space for the noise to fade away.

Practice for the Week: The "Zoom Out" Technique

Next time you feel the heat of an argument rising:

Stop and Observe: Say to yourself, "My mind is angry right now. The Monkey is agitated."

Identify as Awareness: Remind yourself, "I am not this anger. I am the Awareness watching it."

Watch the Illusion: See the argument for what it is—just a "fake movie" projected by the mind.

Do not become the character in the movie; remain the audience.

When you stand as Awareness, you cannot argue.

You can only understand, accept, and love. This is the only way to return to peace.

Blessing:

May you awaken from the dream of conflict.

May you realize that the peace you seek is already who you are.

Be the Awareness, and let the love flow.